Hi. My name is Nike Akinsulire – a wife, mother, daughter and daughter-in-law.
It is my desire to reach out to married people and their in-laws on how to best enjoy and have a perfect relationship. Sometimes along the line in our marriages we get to cross roads with our in-laws. How can we apply biblical principles in dealing with this? Is it possible to enjoy a perfect relationship with our in-laws?
March 13, 2008 at 5:07 pm
Hi this is really good. Thank God for people like you who are encouraging marriage and helping it grow.I pray that this will grow into something big, bigger than your imagination in Jesus name.
God Bless you abundantly.
Bola
March 13, 2008 at 9:08 pm
I was taught long time ago by my intending couple’s class teacher in foursqure gospel church Yaba, Lagos Nigeria; which has helped me for the period in which i have been married, that two things from the book of Genesis 2:2, that are emphasized ‘leaving and cleaving’; the former preceeds the latter as a matter of rules. Leaving includes geographical and psychological detachment away from parents, never involve them in your home matters that exclusively should be taken care of by the couple and not (as much as possible) live together with them, not that they are harmful, but such leads to fright, suspicion, unecessary inquisiveness on both sides.
Cleaving is a matter of precept, which shouldn’t be ignored by either the parents or the couple.
After all said and done, couples should still demonstrate love and care towards them, for example your manner of conversational addressing , should show good gesture to them, establishing good rapport with them both jointly and severally.
In case of neccessity for inlaws to dwell with you, be reasonable to take care, taking cognisance of the situation, in case of in laws, sons or daughters coming to dwell with you, see this as an act of humanitarian for God and not for man, knowing that you dont recieve praise for this, dont take more than you can cope with.
In conclusion in laws have their limitations, but can be an asset some how and in some way.
March 16, 2008 at 2:13 pm
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March 25, 2008 at 5:00 pm
Marriage is about acceptance and compromise by the two families. Couples have to look beyond one another and take each other’s father, mother, sister, brother e.t.c. Treat people with love and respect. I am married to someone who does not speak the same language like me but i appreciate that they speak English [PIGIN-ENGLISH] when i’m there this i will also pass to my children. Before my engagement day both our families had to get someone from each others family to educate each family about our different culture. It was very interesting. I learnt a lot from this. Thanks to my parents, my father and my mother in-law who both had passed away. Without this lecture and the grace of God, i would have referred to my in-laws as bad but they are nice people. My advice is to learn about each other’s culture, then learn about them individually, accept them and pray for wisdom to manage them from God and also pray that they do the same with you.
Thank you Mrs Akinsulire for writing on this subject.God bless u, u are doing a good job.This is excellent.
March 26, 2008 at 6:51 pm
This is a very good blog about in-laws.
I think it’s common to come into marriage with a misconception about your in-laws with all the ‘bad press’ in-laws get. So, having knowledge and dealing with wisdom is important to both couples. This is where understanding and the word of God can play a big part.
Keep up the good work Nike and continuous blessings in your marital life.
May 6, 2008 at 3:15 pm
I am really blessed by this site. In – laws – we have all heard the horror stories. Thank you for shining the light of God on this sensitive subject. We need more like you in the body of Christ – who walk the talk.
Keep shinning my sister -You are indeed a blessing to our generation.
Yomi
May 7, 2008 at 4:40 pm
This is definitely a divine step in the right direction. As the LORD uses you to heal homes, your home will never lack the divine guidance of the Almighty who created this mysterious institution for multiplication, control and dominion. Remain ever blessed. All our LOVE
May 12, 2008 at 4:13 am
We were privileged to go through your site and discovered that the inputs from you will bless the present generation and the generations to come. As God takes you to places in your ministry, we pray that God will continue to equip you with wisdom and understanding as you provide direction in this very important area of marriage.
Samuel and Caroline Ayadi, Lagos Nigeria