Never make a decision to cut off from your in-laws no matter the situation. Do not decide to brush them aside no matter how bad you feel they are. Yes, some in-laws are challenging no doubt but they probably would still be even if they are not your in-laws anyway!
First, let your spouse know how much you are hurting. Your spouse would have, or must have a way of handling the situations better than cutting off from them.
After all they have been his parents or even his extended family long before meeting and marrying you! There must be a way tough situations have been handled in the past!
Don’t be in the middle of an “in-law” crisis, and never be an advocate for cutting off from your in-laws. Never advise your spouse to stop seeing his parents! If they have offended you in the past be ready to forgive them. Also be willing to accept them back as part of your family. Of course you are not a weakling but SMART. Bearing in mind you are also laying a foundation for another generation; like we all know it takes more than sand to build the foundation for a house. You also need the stones no matter how rugged they are.
An African Proverb states:
Wearing a mended dress is better than being naked
Learn to refrain yourself when confronted with provocative circumstances. Some cannot be avoided but can surely be prevented from spreading to dangerous levels.
The long term effect of deciding to have nothing to do with your in-laws could inadvertently affect you, your spouse and your children’s future.
For peace sake, remain calm and talk to your spouse. Be a man/woman enough and talk to your parents/siblings where applicable. Surprise your in-laws by telling you love them and see their face brightening up. No matter how hard hearted they appear to be love cannot be resisted. Give it a try.
Ever wondered what the letter “A” stands for in the word” in-law”?
“A” stands for adaptability. Be adaptable and show them you are ready to accept and love them always.
One does not love if one does not accept from others (African Proverb)
God bless you.
